GO AWAY, I NEED YOU! Are You Dating A Borderline Narcissist? - Post Break-up Enlightenment Tool...

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Go Away, I Need you!
Are You Dating A Borderline Narcissist?
Post Break-up Enlightenment Tool
Understanding What Happened…

© 2011 David Paul Surman:

This isn’t just another noble book written about Borderline Personality Disorder that makes excuses for the condition and/or the abuse inflicted by the sufferer. GO AWAY, I NEED YOU! is a critical, sometimes scathing, but extensively researched no-holds-barred analysis of a very real illness that nevertheless causes not only great distress for those afflicted but even more so for those that are on the receiving end...

Since the book was first published many Borderlines have written to the author expressing horror and disgust at the apparent demonization of their condition and the trauma they experience within its pages. GO AWAY, I NEED YOU! makes no attempt at apologising. Although only a small book, it reserves the right to be a direct reflection of the pain, confusion and emotional damage those suffering from the condition inflict.

Some have suggested that GO AWAY, I NEED YOU! is an angry book. On the contrary; it is in fact a book written about anger! About heartache, misunderstanding and an overall unwillingness on the part of the sufferer to seek professional help. If you have just been through the up-and-down hell of a Borderline relationship, the kind of relationship that leaves you not only feeling discarded and manipulated but in desperate need of some answers in your darkest hour, GO AWAY, I NEED YOU! will offer a glimpse of light…

Extensively researched

Written in layman’s terms

Jargon-free presentation

Helpful tips and warning signs

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Following the breakup no contact is HARD! It doesn’t matter if your Borderline relationship lasted a few months or ten-years, the emotional and psychological impact will have been significant. You will be suffering. Wondering what he/she is doing. Whether or not they are thinking of you. Missing you. Feeling the same way. Forget it! Borderlines can spell love but cannot feel it. What they derived from you was what is commonly known as NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY. As soon as it became too intimate, their abandonment fears kicked in and they aborted the drainage. You were used. Sorry, but you were.

Red Flags:

A reluctance to allow you near their home, friends or family: This signals secrets and should be observed with caution regardless of the plausible excuses offered!

They have nothing good to say about past relationships: You’re next!

A preoccupation with past trauma and hurt: Classic Borderline! Possibly the biggest red flag of them all…

If you think that your Borderline may soften at some point after the break-up, FORGET IT! Nor will their inability to take their share of the blame diminish. Any hope you may harbour of resolve, maybe an apology, some clarity regarding their true feelings for you, an admission of guilt, etc, will NOT be offered. In fact, getting closure from a Borderline is probably harder than coming back from the dead; which, in effect, is what you will effectively be seeking by asking for closure!

If you make the fatal error of getting angry (name calling, etc) during the aftermath of breaking-up, say perhaps your Borderline became somewhat indifferent to your continued presence and/or withdrawal symptoms, you will be blacked. Regardless of how close you thought you both were, and regardless of how you might be suffering, no empathy will be shown...

When you met your Borderline you may not have noticed but very cunningly (perhaps instinctively is a better choice of words) he/she will have figured you out a LOT faster than your realize. This had everything to do with their fear of abandonment. In order to go any further with you, your Borderline will have needed to understand your psychology. Many Borderlines choose careers in the caring field; because of their past traumas they have a vested interest in the understanding of pain and rejection.

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